I’d like him want the same things I want, and be willing to sacrifice to get them. On the other hand, if he’s happy living in the house we are in now, it doesn’t make that much of a difference. He’s not that expensive to keep up. Even with his support, I probably won’t have the house and extra cash I want until long after we aren’t together so it’s really ok if he’s just along for the ride right now. The main thing I want is for him to know what I’m doing so that I have someone to discuss things with when I’m not sure what to do.
Also, he has a seperate income from the military (about $300/month) that I’d like him to start taking better care of. This is supposed to be used for his car insurance, tags, upkeep, and gas, but there have been times when I’ve had to loan him gas money. It’s not a big deal right now, but eventually, when I have my own “real” job and income, I’d like to turn over his regular job’s income over to him so I don’t have to mess with my money and his money both.